Principles For Communicating With People

1. All People are motivated. We cannot motivate them. We can only guide them by their motivations.
2. People do things for their own reasons; not for yours or mine. Show people what they want and they will move heaven and earth to get it.
3. People change because of pain. When the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing, people will change.
4. The key to all effective communication is identification. When something becomes personal, it becomes interesting.
5. The best way to get people to pay attention to you is to pay attention to them. Little things mean a lot.
6. Pride is a powerful motivator. Everybody is proud of something.
7. You cannot change people; only their behaviors. Attack the behavior; not the person.
8. The worker's perception becomes the supervisor's reality. What they see is what you get.
9. You consistently get the behaviors you consistently expect and reinforce. Reinforcement can be positive or negative.
10. We all judge ourselves by our motives; but we judge others by their actions. Any of us can do anything we can convince ourselves we are justified in doing.

© Nido Qubein
www.nidoqubein.com.

Russian Review November 2010

rocks in the garden

We started a Japanese garden on the weekend - bought plants and soil, leveled the big hole left from the removed tree. We are so thankful to Mitch Stover for throwing some rocks into our garden! It would not be a Japanese garden without rocks. Mitch brought some for us from the mountains. Not only rocks - he also brought apples - very tasty, very sweet. Thank you, Mitch! Mitch works in Robinhood Road Starbucks (3331 Robinhood Rd. 336-768-1221) - come and see see his photography and art works on display.

Сарод, Ситар, Гитар

Indian Classical Music Concert. Instruments - Sarod, Sitar, Guitar. Gaurang Doshi and his students. September 11, 2010. Awesome!

Peace. Indian Classical Music Concert in Winston-Salem

I am glad my pictures are now on http://sarodsitar.com/Peace.aspx website! I think they convey the spirit of yesterdays Indian Music concert in WFU! Gaugang Doshi and his students performed beautifully. It was a very special pleasure and honor to listen to Dr. Laxmikant Doshi from India playing ancient ragas. I truly enjoyed the event!

paiting the clouds

Two days - and we finished painting the sky and the clouds. Nadia is a very talented painter. She loves the skies, the clouds, and knows how to apply the color. She can work for hours without getting tired - that is the sign of doing what you love. We had a very interesting sponge - the natural one, actually it is a plants from the bottom of the ocean.

moving the studio

Spend all day painting walls in the Golden Key Piano and Voice Studio (www.goldenkeymusic.com). We're moving to a new location - 2513 Neudorf Dr. in Clemmons. Here is the picture of the front of the studio. I like it. Nice parking, waiting area, great next door neighbors - The Villager Voice! Tomorrow we plan to finish the walls. Painting is fun!

paiting like TS

We are getting ready for a painting project - turning the walls in the new piano studio (www.goldenkeymusic.com) into the blue skies with white clouds :))  Speaking of colorful life - here is a cool fence that my friend pictured last week in Europe!

 

the image is clickable

wireless in Shanevo

My friend, the artist Anatoly Kudravcev, in his boat, in the village of Shanevo in Russia (today! :) This is a very remote Russian village. People can get there only by the boat, but Anatoly can use his notebook with wireless card there. He send me this picture today via email!

To me this is mind blowing... when I left Russia, we didn't have computers there at all.

Happy Birthday at Chinqua-Penn

We went to Chinqua Penn plantation for my birthday. I loved it there! A piece of Europe on American land. Thank you, Beatice Schoellkopf Penn ( i have visited her grave on the property). Her maiden name sounds very Russian, but the tour guide could not make any 'Russian' connections.

dirty dozen

12 Most Contaminated (buy organic!)

Peaches - Apples - Sweet Bell Peppers - Celery - Nectarines - Strawberries - Cherries - Pears - Grapes (Imported) - Spinach - Lettuce - Potatoes

12 Least Contaminated (don't have to buy organic)

Onions - Avocado - Sweet Corn (Frozen) - Pineapples - Mango - Asparagus - Sweet Peas (Frozen) - Kiwi Fruit - Bananas - Cabbage - Broccoli - Papaya

from http://www.organic.org/

sunset

These days we go to our favorite walkway - Greenway. It goes along Muddy Creek. The creek was full today because it rained last night. The walkway runs for 3 miles - nice exercise. Bikes and skates allowed! Beautiful sunset after 7 pm guaranteed :)

breakfast

Went to Breakfast of Course this morning, and found the place being suitable for vegetarians. It is on Trade St in Downtown - go away from the bus station, pass Yoga Gallery, and former Mary's Of Course is on the right. They have expanded on all these horned devilish creatures on their walls. It reminded me why I went to their old place only once before and never came back.

The bare chested waiter David was wearing Mardi Gras beads.

Hawaiian waves

Planning our trip to Hawaii I run across these amazing pictures of Hawaiian waves by a photographer by the name Little. His first name is Clark. I don't know how he is still alive doing such pictures!

Here is the link to the pictures of him in waves so you can see HOW he does it. Very brave guy!

lake

Went to Hanging Rock Park this morning to swim in the lake. The temperature of the water was perfect! The lake is open at ten in the morning. If you can get into the water right after 10 am - you'll be having all the lake for yourself! By 11 am the 'main forces' start filling up the parking lot, dragging all these coolers on wheels and chairs to the beach. This is the best time to leave :)

today in the library

we live in a jungle!

Our vegetable container garden - look more like a jungle! :)))

Valaam in video

Valaam - the island and the monastery where I lived for 6 years:


Read more: click here

snow and ice

this is my car, copyright is also mine :)
how do you like my car plate?

Like any other Russian glamor lady in Moscow these days I went to ACE hardware to get a snow shovel! They only had plastic ones :( $15 each. "Do you have the metal ones?" - I asked. "The metal ones were sold out on Friday..." Logically! I should have listen to forecast and think in advance.

I came back and cleaned my car off snow with my red mitten. Than I cleaned the walkway to the door with a small metal shovel that I bought in the summer to plant my strawberries :))) But I can't use it to clean the driveway. How am I going to go to work tomorrow?

Neighbor folks have parked smart - front forward, with towels and cardboard on the front glass.



someone draw a cat by my door and curled the cat's wisks :)


neighbor's cars

snow in 2008

nadia and vegetables

Nadia is a very good cook! This is her my favorite vegetable - leak (i think).

nadia and cheese

nadia and a piece of chese copyright is
mine, of yesterday clickable

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